Last year, around the beginning of November I think it was, I had some sort of ‘awakening’. I have always struggled with exercise and I had reached the point where I just didn’t know how I was going to stick at anything. I was a member of the gym, I had a personal trainer and I still hated it and I still made excuses not to go.
Being in the business of motivating others I felt a complete failure, not being able to motivate myself to do something I knew would be good for me.
About this time I went on some training. Solution-focussed brief therapy training. I blogged about it at the time – solution-focussed fitness plan
I volunteered to be the ‘dummy client’ and I had to bring something for the trainer to work on, to demonstrate the technique. I blogged about my first day in this previous post but there was a second….and a third.
Something clicked after that second day. I realised that I had been approaching it all wrong. I didn’t like the gym and it wasn’t working as I kept cancelling my training sessions. So I knew what I didn’t like but I had no idea on what to do about it. It was decided in this training/therapy session that I would try out some other types of exercise until I found one I liked. I agreed to go for a bike ride and to walk after work at least twice a week between this session and the final one. I had to come back to the third day, two weeks later, with a report of my progress.
The training focussed on when I had enjoyed exercise. I realised I liked exercise more if I had company. So, with the help of KD, I started my plan that weekend. We went on an exhilarating bike ride and I thoroughly enjoyed it. Every night that week, even though it was dark, we (and the dog) went for a walk. A brisk walk. In fact it was a little TOO brisk for my liking at first but I had promised to try things out so I stuck at it. After only three nights, I had started to enjoy it and my pace quickened.
I kept up the walking with KD almost every evening after that, until just before Christmas, mainly because of social commitments.
The most surprising thing (to me) was that I started to enjoy going to the gym. I had 5 sessions left with the personal trainer. We agreed I would only go once a week, rather than book two sessions in which I dreaded and that I would go on Saturday mornings, rather than after work. This really worked. I am most definitely a morning exerciser! By the time I got to my last session, just before Christmas, I was almost sad that they had finished. In fact, I will probably book some more in soon….
After three weeks, I had lost weight but, much more importantly, I felt so much fitter. My blood pressure came right down and I felt energised.
Christmas and New Year have caused me to slip back slightly. I haven’t done any exercise, apart from one walk and I’ve been eating all the wrong stuff. But I still feel motivated and I know I will get back to where I was. I have decided to start again properly on Monday, since we are having another Christmas Day on Saturday with plenty of food and drink….
I am now, obviously, a HUGE advocate of solution-focussed therapy! If you focus on what works, rather than what doesn’t, you are going to succeed. Trust me – it works!!